April is Child Abuse Awareness Month

April is child abuse awareness month and it is extremely important to spread this message to as many people as possible. Child abuse is when a parent or caregiver either by action or lack of action causes injury to a child. This is an awful and widespread situation causing inexcusable physical and emotional pain to innocent children. Sadly, each year there are more than three million cases of either physical, emotional, sexual, or neglect in the United States. The following information will describe each type of abuse and the signs to each.

Physical abuse is when a parent or caregiver inflicts non-accidental physical injuries to a child. Approximately, 28.3% of adults have disclosed being physically abused as a child. Physical abuse can involve striking, kicking, burning, choking, throwing, shoving, and any other activity that can injure a child. Unfortunately, the outcomes of physical abuse can be any of the following:

Internal injuries that can result in brain damage
Broken bones, sprains, and dislocated joints
Emotional and psychological harm

The majority of people abusing a child do not realize some of their actions and mannerisms show there has been abuse in the home. The following are signs of abuse the parent or caregiver can display:

Unable to explain a child’s injury or attempt explaining the injury, but it doesn’t make any sense
Exhibits aggression towards a child or becomes extremely anxious about a child’s behavior
Tries saying the child isn’t trustworthy and lies
Hinders or prevents the medical care of a child

There are many signs of physical abuse a child may without knowing is showing. It is important to be aware and pay close attention to the following possible signs:

Visible and severe injuries
Injuries are at different stages of healing
Child is not able to explain injuries in a way that is clear and makes sense
Frequency of timing and history of injuries
Bruises have distinctive shapes

When a child is being abused it is very common for the child to have some behavioral changes. Most often the child does not understand what and why this is happening to them and can become angry causing them to behave in uncommon ways, which can include any of the following issues:

Aggression towards peers, pets, or other animals
Displays the fear of parents or other adults
Wears long sleeve shirts, no matter the season
Develops feelings of fear, depression, and anxiety
Experiences nightmares and or insomnia
Self-destructive behaviors or attitudes
Acting immaturely, emotional and extreme behaviors

A child is being sexually abused when an adult has sexual intentions or the child or involves the child in sexual acts. Sexual abuse can also be when an older or stronger child uses a younger or less strong child for excitement or sexual gratification. About 20.7% of adults have reported they were sexually abused when they were a child.

Before we go too deep into sexual abuse, I want to forewarn you this part was extremely difficult to write, so it may also be troubling to read. I am fairly sure, especially with the present company, I am not the only one that finds sexual abuse both degrading and appalling. If only this topic wasn’t grotesque enough, it gets much worse because of all the different types of sexual abuse, which includes the following:

Non-contact abuse– happens when a child is abused without being touched, This can occur both in-person and online, which includes

Exposing or flashing
Showing child pornographic videos
Improper sexual talking
Pressure child to make, view or share child abuse images or videos
Force the child to masturbate
Threaten and coercions child to take part in sexual activities via phone or online

Contact Abuse is when the abuser makes physical contact with the child victim and can include:

– Sexual touching to any part of the child’s body, with or without clothing

– Uses part of a child’s body or another object to rape or penetrate a child

– Child pressured and forced to take part in sexual acts

– Forcing a child to undress and or touch someone else

Parents and caregivers typically have no idea how their behavior can display signs of sexual abuse. By being aware and paying attention, signs you might be able to view are the following:

Parent or caregiver neglects to look after a child
Unstable adult presence
Parent is jealous and possessive
Sexual relationships are problematic, unhealthy and dysfunctional
Parent depends heavily on a child for emotional support

When a child is or has been sexually abused there are many signs that should be noted. Again, the signs I am listing are unspeakably odious, but they do include the following:

Struggles sitting, walking and with bowel problems
Torn, stained, bloody undergarments
Bleeding, bruising, painful, swollen, itchiness of the genital area
Reoccurring urinary tract infections or yeast infections

Sexual abuse is an awful situation for anyone to go through, but children are innocent and do not understand what is happening. The child was likely told by the abuser not to tell anyone because no one would believe them and even threaten them to not say anything. A child might be scared and angry making behavioral changes to be relatively common. Below are some behavioral changes that may be noticed:

Child does not want to changes clothes, especially during gym class
Withdrawn, depressed and anxiousness
Aggressive, poor relationships with peers
Negative self-image
Lacks confidence and self-care
Performance in school declines
Substance abuse, recklessness, suicide attempts
Sleep disturbances, such as nightmares, fear bedtime and bedwetting
Acting out sexually at a young age

Child abuse can leave behind more than bruises from physical abuse and or the inexcusable effects of sexual abuse. Emotional abuse can cause many other scars not visible to the naked eye. Emotional abuse is commonly called psychological abuse because it involves persistent emotional mistreatment of a child causing irreparable damage over time. Approximately 10.6% of adults reported they were emotionally abused as a child.

Emotional abuse is not always easy to detect because it is normally part of other forms of abuse. The issues that are involved with emotional abuse may include:

*Rejecting or ignoring- examples include showing lack of interest in a child, no initiating or returning the affection

*Shaming or humiliating- Example include name-calling, mocking, belittling

*Terrorizing- Examples include blaming, accusing, threatening, manipulating, screaming or yelling at the child

*Corrupting- Examples include encouraging bad behavior, pressuring a child into a criminal act

Whether the emotional abuse is being imposed on a child by a parent or caregiver, there are helpful signs to be aware of. I am not including all the signs because there is already a lot for you to read. Below are the signs a parent or caregiver may show:

Plays favorites between siblings
Atrocious anger management or emotional self-regulation
Terrible relationships with other adults
History of violence or abuse
Untreated mental illness, alcoholism or substance abuse

When a child is being emotionally abused they could display physical and behavioral signs. The physical signs may include the following:

Developmental delays
Speech disorder
Health issues such as ulcers and skin disorder
Weight problems

Examples of a child’s behavior change are as followed:

Learning disabilities and developmental delays
Excessively complaint or defensive
Intense emotions, aggression, anxieties
Destructive or anti-social behaviors
Inappropriate behavior (either too childlike or too adult-like)

Child neglect is a form of abuse where the parent or caregiver does not offer the care, supervision, affection, or care necessary for a child’s health, safety, and well-being. This can include physical, emotional, medical, and educational neglect. Child neglect signs are as follows:

Deserting a child
Continuing to leave a child in another’s care for hours, days, weeks at a time
Not providing food and drink, or clothing appropriate to the weather
Failing to supervise child for valid safety concerns
Allowing a child to be around an inappropriate caregiver
Exposing a child to an unsafe or unsanitary environment

Although some states that will not prosecute parents because of religious reasons, the parent can still receive a court order to protect a child’s life. Parents and caregivers are required to get a child-appropriate medical treatment for injuries and illness. Basic preventative care to ensure children remains safe and healthy is necessary.

Examples of medical negligence include, but not limited to the following:

Not taking a child to the hospital or medical professional for serious illness or injury
Withholding child from getting treatment
Failing to provide preventative medical and dental care for a child
Refusing to follow medical recommendations for child

Unfortunately, only one instance of neglect can cause lifelong distress to a child. Neglect tends to require a pattern of behavior over some time. Some signs suggesting a parent or caregiver needs assistance with nurturing and how to protect a child while they are in your care, which includes:

Shows indifference or lack of concern for a child
Depression, drug and alcohol abuse or a mental health issue
Perceives child negativity
Expects a child to take care of themselves

A child being neglected may show any of the following signs:

Clothing does not fit, clothes are dirt and not weather appropriate
Often hungry seeks out where the food is, shows signs of malnutrition
Low body weight
Often overtired and falling asleep during the school day
Hygiene problems
Untreated medical and dental issues and or incomplete immunizations
Frequent changes to schools and or physician

Any form of abuse leaves traumatic memories that can’t be erased. The scars left behind may be a visible daily reminder and the deep-rooted emotional effects throughout life can and do damage a child’s sense of self-esteem. Current and future relationships can be impacted and the ability to function at home and school can be challenging. Effects from child abuse may include the following:

An inability to trust and relationships can be a struggle. The ones a child should be able to trust, a parent or caregiver, so if it is one of these people abusing the child, it is understandable why the child will find trusting almost impossible.
Deep feelings of worthlessness. When a child hears repeatedly negative words used to describe who they are, it becomes extremely difficult to overcome. As abused children grow up, they may neglect their education and settle for jobs with low pay because it is all they feel they are worth. Sexually abused children feel shame surrounding the abuse and battle with feelings of being damaged, which may allow people in their lives that have bad habits and intentions.
Struggle with balancing emotions. Abused children do not feel safe expressing their emotions. This can result in burying emotions deep down so the emotions can be ignored. Adults that were abused struggle with anxiety, depression, and anger they can’t explain. Often adults that were abused will lean on alcohol and drugs to numb the painful memories.

If a child feels comfortable enough with you to explain what they have experienced, pay very close attention to the child and be compassionate. Of course, it will never be easy to hear about a child being abused, so there are some crucial things to remember and follow:

Avoid reactions of denial and remain calm. If a child senses shock or disgust at what they are telling you, the child will become fearful to continue their story and shut down completely.
Do not interrogate. It is very important to allow the child to explain what they experienced in their own words. If you ask the child leading questions they may get confused and flustered making it difficult to finish their story. The child has shown already they trust you, so trust them to continue.
Reassure the child they did nothing wrong. Explain to the child it took a lot of courage to be willing to share their story with you. It may help the child if you thank them for trusting you and that you are there to help them.
Safety needs to come first. If you feel you or the child is in danger, especially if you intervene further, leave any more intervention to the professionals.

First, I want to thank you for visiting my site today. Second, I know this information can be very disturbing, I mean it took me several days to complete allowing myself breaks from this painful topic. I think it is important to be aware of what can happen to children and also have ways to offer children comfort. I would love to read any comments you have about the information I have provided.

I hope you are having a good week so far and staying safe! I know someday the new cases of coronavirus will level out and the fatalities will end. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!