This post was inspired by my aunt on my mother’s side of the family. She has been dealing with several years of fighting against cancer. Sadly, last week my aunt’s doctor told her she has just six months left to live. Of course, my mother has been very distraught about this news. My mother and her sister may not live close to one another, but my mother still doesn’t want to lose her older sister and they are family. I tried being positive for my mother’s sake by saying that doctors can be wrong and her sister may continue to live many more years. Unfortunately, my mother is a nurse so she knows hospice doesn’t get involved without real reasons.
I have tried helping my mother find a plane ticket for a reasonable price because if her sister does only have six months left to live, this may be the last chance they have to see each other. I know what it is like losing someone you love and the last time you see them, they are in a coffin. It is traumatizing and I do not want that feeling for my mother. Even though I do hate to admit this, I have not seen or talked to my aunt in many years, but I am wishing nothing but the best for her and as much comfort as possible for her.
I can’t imagine how my aunt is feeling during such an awful time. I don’t even know how long, but my aunt and uncle have been married a long time and been through a lot together. She also has a daughter that is a few years younger than me and she has grandchildren she adores. It is terrible how little I actually know about my family, but were are reasons that use to matter that does not seem all that important now. Unfortunately, we can’t go back and change the past.
This has had my mind spinning in circles because I can’t imagine what it would be like being told you have six months to live. There is no way that would be easy to handle and still try to keep a positive mindset.
There are not too many people that would deserve to hear news like my aunt did. I might not be close to my family, but I do know my aunt spent her life working hard trying to provide the best she could for her daughter and now she is facing the end of her life. I know life isn’t fair, but my aunt doesn’t deserve the fate waiting for her. I wish there was something I could do to change her fate beside keep her in my prayers and ask others to do the same.
Have you ever thought about how you would handle news like this? What would you do if you learned you only have a few months to live? Is there anything on your bucket list you would do in the last months of life? I have thought about this before because you never know when your time is up. If I was told that I only have a few months left to live, I would want to be sure I traveled to all the places I want to see. I enjoy traveling and of course, I love to see new beaches; after all, the beach is my happy place! I do believe it is best to spend our time here living our life as full as we possibly can. I think we should live each day like it is our last. I know some might think this is a negative way to live life and that is okay, we are all entitled to our own thoughts and beliefs. I honestly do not want ever to ever take life for granted and never want those I love to wonder how I feel about them because they deserve to know without any doubts.
Thank y’all so much for visiting my site today! The important things I hope you take from this post are, love and appreciate your life and those in it. Never take life for granted because it can all be over in the blink of an eye without any warning. I am looking forward to reading what you think about this post and I will response as quickly as I can! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!
Always, Alyssa
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Thank you so much Alyssa for this post. I do appreciate any and all prayers for my sister. I still can’t believe the news my sister received last week. It’s outrageous to be told you only have a short time left on this earth. How do you handle that? You probably would have things you want to do but on the other you feel too sick, tired and weak to do anything. It’s just not right. My sister is only 11 months older than I am. Worked her whole life. She now has 2 grandchildren that she adores, 12 and 11. A husband of almost 25 years. What happens to him? He’s going to be lost. Life is definitely too short. Families spend so much not talking to one another through the years and then this happens. Now you have no choice, you won’t be able to talk to this person again. Please if you all can learn something from this I would want you to be kind to your family, stop fighting, and enjoy one another. You never know when it’s your time. Love each other and always be there for one another. Thank you again Alyssa. You’re the best daughter ever. All my Love & Support, Mom!!
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The pleasure was all mine! I know everyone in the blogging community will send your sister the prayers she needs because they are amazing people!!!
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Sorry to hear about your aunt. Prayers for your family.
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Thank you so much! The prayers you are sending are very appreciated!
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Well, if I had only six months I would certainly stop working if I hadn’t stopped already. I might try to do a few things with my wife and family, but I wouldn’t go out of my way to see anyplace or anything. I’d want to surround myself with the people important in my life and enjoy each day the best I can. Knowing me, I would also make sure all my financial affairs are in order and go over everything one more time with my wife.
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You are very wise and this was a fantastic answer! I am sure all your financial affairs would already be done because you seem like an excellent planner!
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We try. The more I think about this, I would probably ask my family about what THEY wanted to do in the time left
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That is a great way to look at it because family is what matters.
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I’m so sorry this is happening in your family. I do know what this is like since my mother also received news like this: she became my model for grace and courage at the end of life. She settled her estate and made her funeral decisions. She took us all to Hawaii. She visited everyone she loved to say goodbye. She established a scholarship to help women enter the ministry. At the end she died st home with hospice help; her sister and I held her hands.
I learned a lot during all of this. To accept and deal with a diagnosis such as the one your aunt has received is a type of strength; acknowledge the nature of your enemy and end life on your own terms. I hope to do as well as my mom someday. Hugs to you, your family, and your mother. I know you will do everything you can to help her get to her sister.
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