Another year has passed us by again and we are ready to embark on a brand new year. I went into 2019 with high hopes for a better year, but unfortunately, it felt like a repeat of 2017 and 2018 with no noticeable changes. Although the logical part of my brain gets over-run by the illogical part, I would like to believe that no change is far better than dealing with any negative changes.
As I think back on how fast the previous years went by, I feel 2019 went by at supersonic speed! I am a firm believer that everything in life happens for a reason, even if we have to dig a little deeper to identify those reasons. All that we face in life happens exactly when it is supposed to and hold valuable lessons.
At the end of 2019, I would like to ask y’all a few questions! I think this will be a fun and interesting way to end the year and discover ways for better years to come! I do look forward to reading your answers and to be fair, I am going to answer the same questions I asked you to!
What were the three best things that occurred during 2019?
- I was able to build up the courage and strength to leave a job that brought me nothing
but misery before having another.
- Even with changes in jobs/schedules, I have still managed to find the time to continue blogging as much as I can.
- After being in an accident (obviously not a good thing), I was able to purchase the car I had wanted! It wasn’t lucky to be in an accident that totaled my car, but I was fortunate enough to find exactly what I wanted.
If it were possible, what are three things you would change about 2019?
- After my husband and I moved, I was supposed to have found a new neurologist so I would not have to drive 2 hours to my old one. It has been over a year and I still
haven’t made an appointment with a new one. I
- I know there is not much I can do about this, but I do wish I could change and end all the senseless hatred that has built up in my country, which is causing way too many mass shootings. It is downright insanity when you have to fear a possible gunman being at the grocery store or that latest issue at a church.
- If I could change all the dishonesty and corruption in politics, I would and it would possibly bring back democracy.
What are the three worse things that happened in 2019?
- During 2019 I had my first accident and it totaled my poor car. The accident was not
my fault, but it scared the heck out of me. I am pretty sure as scared as I was; the young kid that hit my car was twice as scared when I got out of my car yelling as I have never yelled before, especially at a young kid (well he was 17 so I am sure has heard worse)!
- 2019 was the first time in a long time I had to go without insurance. Going without insurance and having a chronic illness living in the United States can be dangerous.
- Another thing that occurred in 2019 is, mass murders were happening so frequently it became normal to see on TV. Even though I saw it all happen through the news, I can’t for the life of me understand why murders were the only way to deal with differences. It is never going to be acceptable to me.
What are the three accomplishments you had during 2019?
- After walking away from one job I hated, I was able to quickly find something else that will hopefully be easier on my health.
- I have taken the steps needed to achieve something I am passionate about, which is trying my hand in freelance writing. Honestly, I still have more to do with getting started, but I plan to have things going further within the month of January.
- I have built many friendships in the blogging community that I will cherish forever and look forward to many more in the years to come!
Based on what you learned over the past year, what are the three goals you have for 2020? I decided to ask about goals instead of New Year’s Resolutions. I think resolutions put too much stress and expectations on us!
- I have always been extremely hard on myself. I have always been my biggest critic of everything I do. One of my goals is to stop being so hard on myself and quit second-
guessing myself.
- Another goal I have is to build on my writing skills and start a freelance career.
- One of my greatest struggles is that I stress about everything. A continued amount of stress causes my health to deteriorate and what good is that doing anyone? I want to focus on relaxing a lot more and stressing a lot less.
Thank you so much for visiting my site today. I am looking forward to reading your answers to the five questions I have asked. I will admit, it took me a while to complete because I had to put a lot of thought into each question.
Happy New Year to all of you! I wish for y’all to have an amazing 2020 and all your dreams come true. I am looking forward to another year of getting to know y’all and building fabulous friendships! As always, please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love
, comfort, and many positive vibes!
Always, Alyssa
Reblogged this on Survivors Blog Here.
LikeLike
Happy New Year! 😀
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy New Year to you as well!
LikeLiked by 1 person
One of my main accomplishments in 2019 was that I blogged regularly on AutoimmuneWarrior.org! I looked at my stats today and I was shocked to see I got over 5,000 views in 2019. While this might not be considered much to some, it was a huge accomplishment for me since I had less than 100 views the year before. I’m passionate about writing about autoimmune disease and connecting with others living with such conditions, so I’m hoping to blog even more this year.
Best wishes for you in 2020!
LikeLiked by 2 people
That is a wonderful accomplishment and I know you helped many people! I think you are doing a spectacular job and should be very proud of yourself! I am wishing you all that happiness in the world for 2020!!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you Alyssa 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
You are more than welcome!
LikeLike
Happy New Year to you too Alyssa! Cheers to a great year ahead.The last couple of years have been horribly rough for us but hopefully 2020 will bring us all good health and happiness and will be a better one. I didn’t know you had an accident. Hope you’re OK. I love the way you’ve reflected on the year 2019 in this blog post and great not to set resolutions but rather goals. It is very important that we focus on our achievements rather than the failures, or if we look at those. failures that we focus on what we learnt from those mistakes. This year I am finally going to try and put myself first and I would like to be more grateful for the little things in life.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you so much! The past few years have been a struggle, but I think 2020 will be a great year. Yes, I had an accident on my way home from work. Some young kid didn’t yield to oncoming traffic and hit my car. I am okay, but my car wasn’t. I do think it is best to focus on achievements and let go of failures. Of course the only time we fail is when we give up! I hope 2020 brings you LOTS of happiness!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I wish the same to you too. I really hope 2020 will be a good year for both of us. The last two years, 2018-2019 haev been absolutely horrid.
LikeLiked by 1 person
I agree that 2018-2019 were pretty awful, but hopefully 2020 will be a great year!
LikeLike
Happy 2020 Alyssa to you and your blogging family. I’m so glad to see one of your goals is to stop second guessing yourself. You are the most logical person I know. When you make a decision I know a lot of thought has gone into it. Trust your instinct and go for it without looking back. I have to say my 2019 was pretty uneventful. I tend to be skeptical about making changes in my life because if it’s working why change it. I guess that’s just it. Is it really working? Not so much. I’m not necessarily happy with my job because I sometimes think my patients deserve more. Unfortunately there just isn’t enough time in a shift to do all the extras to really make a difference. I try giving as much as I can. Looking for another job is scary when you’re the one bringing in the money. I can’t afford not to have a job. One of my goals is to explore my options in the medical field and do what I need to in order to make me happy. I think if I can be happier my outlook on life will be better. My 2nd goal is to be more positive and try finding the good in every situation and in every person. This is going to be difficult because people have a tendency to disappoint you. People tend to say one thing to your face and something different behind your back. Why can’t people be honest? Why can’t we all just get along? See what I mean. This is definitely a challenge for me. The 3rd goal is that my husband and I will get more involved in doing things together. No matter how small I just want the two of us to make some happy memories that will last for years to come. I want my husband to enjoy the fact he’s retired even though he has an illness that causes him to isolate himself. We all have choices and his just isn’t working anymore. Life is short and it’s up to us to make the best of what we’ve been dealt. It’s not about what happens to us but how we react to what happens to us that makes a difference. We’ve all been dealt a hand good or bad. Don’t dwell on how bad you may have it. Do something to make your situation not so bad. We all are stronger than we think. Make 2020 your best year ever. Only you know what needs to change to make this happen. Believe in yourself and trust you have what it takes to be happy. All my Love & Support, Mom!!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Thank you for this amazing and strong comments. I know life for Bob isn’t easy and it is hard for you as well, but y’all have each other and that is the most important!! All you can do is love each other and support each other!! Love you both!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Finally wrote up a post for this New Year. You can read it here. https://all-hearts.org/2020/01/01/the-gratitude-attitude/
LikeLiked by 1 person
I am glad you wrote your first post for 2020 and I promise I am going to read it! I have been dealing with a migraine that just will not go away. Hopefully it will leave and I can read your post because I know already it is great!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy New Year to you too. I know how awful migraines can be. I hope you’re feeling much better and were able to rest up and that the and the migraine went away.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Glad to hear you enjoyed it.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy new year
LikeLiked by 2 people
Happy New Year to you as well! I hope 2020 will be a great year for you!
LikeLike
My biggest accomplishment was having had my work broadly published and getting recognition besides finally starting to work on a collection of my own.
I had a lot stress in 2019, had some freaks to get rid of and ended it up smiling. So I win.
Happy new year, dear and may it bring everything u wished for.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It was an amazing accomplishment to have your work broadly published! You are a brilliant writer and person and deserved recognition! I will say 2019 had a lot of stress, but at least we made it through! I am glad you were able to get rid of freaks. There really are way too many freaks out there and it seems like they are everywhere. Keep smiling and being the wonderful person you are!!! I hope 2020 will be a great year for you sweetie!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
For both of us. Thanks, hon.
LikeLike
You are more than welcome my dear!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy new year. Great reflections of 2019 and wonderful plans of 2020. Wish you all the very best.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you and I am so sorry for my late response! I hope 2020 will be an amazing year for you!!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Np
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy New Year! No, Happy New Decade! It’s great that you can reflect honestly and set some new goals. You go girl!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I am sorry for my late response. I hope 2020 will be a great year for you! In the past I always sent New Years resolutions, but decided to try something new this year with just setting goals. Goals are something that can be accomplished and even altered, but there seems to be less stress this way. Best wishes for a new decade!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Happy New Year and I wish continued success for you in everything. Blessings
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you so very much! I hope 2020 will be a wonderful year for you!!
LikeLike
A belated Happy New Year Alyssa. May your 2020 be happy, healthy and productive
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you! I wish you good health and success for 2020! I have nothing but faith in you!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Wow, I’m late trying to work my way through blogs, oops!
Loved your answers on these, and they’re actually really good questions to make you reflect on the past year and evaluate what’s happened. You’ve certainly been through a heck of a lot, from car accidents to job changes and everything in between. But you have a hell of a lot to be proud of, too. Wishing you all the very, very best for a happier, healthier (we can still wish, right?!) & brighter 2020! 🎉 ♥
Caz xxx
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oh my goodness sweetie, I am pretty behind as well. I guess I am not starting 2020 off the best way possible.
I am so glad you love my answers. I think it is important to reflect on the previous year because whether we know it or not, we learned so much and grew!!! 2019 wasn’t the best year, but it wasn’t the worst either. I am hoping 2020 will bring on great new things and lots of happiness for all!!!! Thank you for your kindness Caz, you are an amazing person and I am glad I can call you a dear friend!! xxx
LikeLiked by 1 person