The decision I finally made today took a lot of thought. For some very strange reason, turning in my resignation to my job was a rather difficult thing for me to do. In the past I have always given the proper two weeks notice, but why should I do what is proper when they never did for me? Does this make me just as shallow as
those I worked for are or did I just do what was best for my health? Who can really say what is right and wrong? The truth is, everyone has a breaking point when they just can’t take it anymore and in this situation we need to put ourselves ahead of anything else, especially a job! No job is worth it when you are constantly being mistreated and stressed. Music helps my stress in so many ways!
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At this point I feel a sense of relief mixed with worry. Of course I have had several interviews and feel pretty confident one of them will work out, but then I think what if I don’t? I am 38 years old and haven’t ever left a job when another wasn’t a sure thing, but for the first time in my life I decided to put my health first!
I do know and completely understand that things in Corporate America are never 100% fair, but at the same time if everyone is being mistreated in the same way, I can deal much better with it. I know that didn’t sound very nice, but being treated equally is important! I am pretty sure my next job will come with the same issues, but my goodness it can;t ever be as terrible as where I have been at. I should have known something was not right when I started at the apartment community when everyone that had worked there before left. I highly doubt it was because of new management and way more likely because of the current management! I should have followed what my instincts were telling me! A valuable lesson was learned!
There is a part of me that will miss some parts of the job I just left, but nothing big enough for me to stay there. There are a handful of residents I will miss and I kind of regret not being able to say bye to them. I do not think it will have an impact on their life and yet I do wish them wellness!
The funny thing is, I am glad to be closing this chapter of my life and look forward to the next chapter. I am playing the waiting game to hear back from another opportunity, which I am terrible at, but I will be fine! Change isn’t always easy, but it is a necessary thing as well!
Thank you so much for stopping by my site today. I always appreciate your thoughts on what I have shared and do encourage them! I promise to respond to your comments as quickly as I can. I do hope your weekend has been wonderful and you are feeling well. Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love , comfort, and many positive vibes!
Always, Alyssa
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Thank you for sharing!!.. you never know until you try, nothing ventured, nothing gained!.. I am sure if you follow your heart you will realize your dreams!.. “The only thing that stands between you and your dream is the will to try and the belief that it is actually possible.” ― (Joel Brown)… 🙂
“Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary” Steve Jobs
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Thank you for reading and leaving me a great comment! I appreciate you and your encouraging words!
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I am so proud of you and it does not matter who thinks you are right or wrong, you do what you feel is the best for you and I am happy you did. I know you will get a new job soon as you are not one to stay home and not work. please do not accept the 1st one but accept the one you feel in your spirit is the one for you. I am having major issues with my RA again after 4yrs of no meds and pain. I am praying over what I need to do as well. I am praying for you my friend. lots of love.
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Thank you Alaine! I have a few jobs I am waiting to hear back on and hope to know something early in the week. You are right, I am not one to stay home and not work, I think I would go crazy! I honestly would love to and focus on my writing, but we need insurance and an income. I do not think ex-boss is going to care, but I know some of the residents will.
I am so sorry you are dealing with RA issues. WOW, 4 years without meds, what do your doctors think about that? I know first-hand how awful pain can be and I wish you didn’t have to deal with it. My thoughts are with you! How is your daughter doing? Any wedding bells in her future?
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You didn’t do anything with the way you left your job. You did what felt best for you. The 2 weeks you stayed probably wouldn’t have went well for you. I wish you a lot of luck in getting the new job
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Thank you Michelle! I do think I did what was best for me and my mental health. I do agree with you, if I had given a 2 weeks notice it wouldn’t have been good at all. I have at least two jobs I am waiting to hear back on and another interview Tuesday! All good things come to those who wait, right?
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Yes they do
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You know what I think… Your health comes first and foremost.
So, you did hand in your resination? Good for you.
Some jobs and/or people don’t deserve givin notice to. If they have mistreated you, (Which they have), they don’t deserve the time of day as far as I’m concerned. They are the ones that have suffered a loss… If they had treated you with any dignity and respect that you deserved, then that would be different story.
Something will come along, I believe in that.
Comfort to you and positivie vibes heading your way, Sweeite!!
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Well I handed in my resignation, but the jackass manager wasn’t there. I didn’t want to see him. One of the other unpleasant leasing people was there. I didn’t speak to her much though! A person I leased to came in with a complaint, so I was able to tell her I was leaving and she said Congrats!! She was super nice! You are right, they do not deserve the time of day and need to learn to treat people better! I feel a sense of relief, but a little stress because I do not have another job confirmed, I do hope one will come into place early in the week. I appreciate all your kindness and support Beckie!
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You are the only one who knows what’s best for you. Congratulations on having the courage to do what you need to do. It will all work out for the best.
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Thank you so much! I do feel a sense of relief, but yet a little stress considering I do not have another job confirmed yet. I do hope something will work in my favor early in the week!
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That’s so good 😍. You did what felt best for you . Good luck 👍
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Thank you so much!
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I don’t think you were wrong for resigning on the spot. The mind will try to reason it’s way through anything and even trick you into feeling bad. I’m glad that you didn’t let it win, and listened to your heart instead. ♥️
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Thank you so much Hilary! I do feel a huge sense of relief, but maybe a little stress as well. I can’t believe I quit without another job in place. Hopefully one I already interviewed will come through. I did start feeling a little guilty for not giving the proper notice, but at the same time they didn’t deserve it! Listening to my heart and instincts will always be the best thing!
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congratulations! it feels so good once you have made a decision and then you can go from there! 🙂
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Thank you Wendi! I haven’t ever done something so unprofessional before. I do hope things will work in my favor now that I have dropped the negativity from my life!
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You did what you needed to do! Now that it is done, thank goodness, you clear your mind and move onto better things! 🙂
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In fact, being mistreated for having an ailment is something they can get sued for. I believe the employment laws protect the disabled from the behavior they were serving up to you.
Sleep well dear.
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Thank you Emma! You are very right, there are laws that were broken. Someone else told me to check out my local employment law place and I do plan to do so. Something needs to happen so no one else will be mistreated there again!
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Sounds like a very good decision.
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You are so brave to step out and said “I had enough abuse.” Kudos to your courage. I’m so proud of you for being so brave. Sometimes you will question your decision and doubt yourself especially when job hunting is not up to your expectations, remember to hold on your strength and think positively.
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Thank you so much Kally! I was so sick of dealing with the hostile work environment and being mistreated, I had to get away. I have gone on many interviews and actually received an offer today. I countered the hourly rate because it was less that I was willing to accept. We will see how that goes. My husband said that countering their offer could be a bad thing, but I have always been told it is best to do right away. What do you think? I really appreciate your very kind words, Kally!!!
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Countering offer straightaway is much better than to accept a salary you don’t deserve and keep hoping that one day they will adjust it if they see your hard work. It will never happen. Unless a promotion comes by. You’ll end up feeling unappreciated and unhappy. If the company really see your worth but couldn’t afford, they will counter back your counter offer.
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Thank you Kally! I am glad I did a counter because it worked out. The hiring manager also sees me being promoted quickly because I guess he saw my potential!
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Yay! Congratulations! So happy for you.
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Thank you Kally!! I appreciate your kind words!
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Good for you! I am sure something will turn up soon. Sending positive vibes from New England
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Thank you so much! I actually did get a job offer today. They didn’t offer me what I wanted for pay, but I did counter them. I was also told that I would move up quickly because of my background and skills! We will see what they come back with regarding my counter!
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I’m so glad you made this decision and finally put you first. You’re such a pleasant and smart person you’ll have another job before you know it. We do have to think what’s best for us and when a job causes more grief and frustration it’s time to spread our wings and fly. Yes it’s scary but so needed. Hang in there Alyssa. You’ll have a job before the end of the week. Take this time and relax. Concentrate on yourself and do what makes you 😊 happy. All my Love & Support, Mom
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Thank you so much! Luckily, I did get a job offer today, not making what I was expecting, but I did counter their offer. I was also told I would move up quickly because of my background and skill set, so we will see. This new job will be far less stress and negativity or at least I hope it will be. The good thing is, no weekends and a normal schedule!!!!!
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Good for you, Alyssa! I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision but you’re smart to put your health first and it doesn’t sound like you owe them a thing!! Good luck with the interviews, I have no doubt you’ll find something much better very soon. 💕
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Thank you Amanda! It was a very difficult decision for me, but only because I was worried about insurance and how long it would take me to get another job. I am kind of supporting the entire house at the moment. Good news is, I did get a job offer, which I counter them on the hourly rate! I will be starting Dec 9th!
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Congratulations!! That’s so great, Alyssa, I’m so happy for you! I really hope it is a wonderful place to work, with understanding and supportive people. I worry about you and how much you have on your plate. Look after yourself, lovely. 💕
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Thank you so much Amanda! I do think the job will not be all that stressful. After what I dealt with at the previous job, I will not tolerate it again. I do tend to have a lot on my plate, but I am going to try to lessen the amount. Your kindness and support really do mean a lot to me. Another good thing is, I do not start the new job until 12/9, which will end up giving me one month off!!!
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Oh, that’s fantastic! Enjoy your well-deserved rest!!
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Thank you so much Amanda!!!!
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