My accident that shouldn’t have happened!

images (15)Just because a bad day may have turned into a bad week doesn’t mean that we have done something to deserve the troubles we are faced with! All this could mean is, whatever has occurred in our life was just meant to happen exactly when it did and not a moment sooner or later. I know this does not make it any easier to accepted, but I promise life will continue moving forward in the order it supposed to.

My week started off incredibly aggravating because I was dealing with way too many hostile, spiteful and negative co-workers. Even though we are all on the same “team”, we do images (14)work on slightly different tasks. Now each person and each different task contributes to the success of the work getting completed accurately. The ultimate goal for everyone on the “team” should be to ensure the client receives their medication that keeps them alive on time. However, it seems like some of these co-workers get angry we with me because I am able to get more work completed in less time than they can. During one of their many complaint parties, I nonchalantly said how much I understood where they were coming. This was just a way to get them to stop their download (8)complaining and also let them see I also had struggled before.  When I was asked how I managed to do what I do as fast as I do it, I said I had to play with different ways of organizing before I had one that was perfect for me! Of course being the person I am, I shared with them my work-flow with details.

Even though dealing with several snide and bitter co-workers was not easy, it is far better than dealing with purchasing health insurance. I know I have already made my views about this topic perfectly clear, but I actually found out more horrendous images (15)information on Thursday morning. If I were to go through my employer for health insurance the cost would be outrageous and that is an understatement.  My husband and I decided to purchase our own health insurance policy, well at least until he finds job that offers insurance at a more reasonable rate. We were both very pleased when we saw that the monthly rates and deductibles were far lower than the plan through my job. The plan I would get through my employer was going to only include myself and would cost about half my paycheck. The plan we can purchase would include both me and my husband and cost 21%t less than the one I could get through my employer.

The funny thing is, it isn’t even the cost anymore that has me so upset and disgusted because things got even worst. On Thursday morning, my husband and I were talking images (14)before I started work and he told me that the policy we can purchase will NOT cover pre-existing conditions until January. Y’all already know that I do have a pre-existing condition and I worried the day would come when an insurance company could discriminate against me for something I cannot control! It seems like insurance companies and the government want to punish people more that have a chronic illness and this is just NOT right! I think we are punished enough with what we already have to deal with. Maybe I am too emotionally close to this situation, but how the hell can anyone sleep at night when they are creating an awful situation for many Americans?

On Thursday, I ended up leaving work early because my pain and headache were at a high. I thought going home to rest would actually help me recover and feel better. images (16)Unfortunately, I was wrong because no more than 5 minutes of being in the car, I was in an accident. The accident was not my fault; it was the fault of a young kid. We both had a green light, but he was “supposed” to yield to on-coming traffic.

In all the years I have been driving this was the most terrifying thing I have ever experienced. Things kind of went in slow motion before the cars collided with each other. I did everything I could to avoid the crash, but it wasn’t enough. When I realized the kid was not going to stop, I laid on my horn and my foot was appearance of twoon the brake. My car is SO little and I know things could have gone much worst that they did, but it was still terrible. The sound the cars made when they made contact with each other, scared the hell out of me. I always act like a lady and try to be polite, but I got out of my car with furry and colorful language. The stupid and ignorant kid never even had the decency to apologize to me. The only thing this idiot said to me was, “We need to move the cars out of the road.” This was the first accident I have ever been in and I basically told him hell no, not until the police arrive. Honestly there were many more words than that, but I thought it was best to keep this a lot cleaner than The two carsit was!

I know my first call should have been 911, but mine was to my husband. We live so close to where the accident happened and I needed him there immediately. Thankfully my husband got to me in less than 5 minutes. When I called 911, the dispatch lady did tell me to move the cars, but of course I took pictures first. I wanted the cop to see the end result and there to be no questions at all whose fault it was.

The end result was my car was towed to a car repair place and the kid drove away with hardly any damage to his jeep. I am going to need to get a rental car until my car has been fixed, but I am terrified to drive again. Two days after the accident, I am still very sore. Y’all know I am use to dealing with pain, but it has elevated drastically. I am doing my best to just rest because that is the only thing that will calm the pain down.

on-the-tow-truck.jpgAnother thing I must say is, if my husband wasn’t there with me at the accident scene I would have been way too shaken up to handle it. Even with him there I was inconsolable and just cried and shook. Later he told me he was worried I was going to have a heart attack. In an effort to make me feel better, my husband gave me a new crochet bag and hooks, which are so great!! He has also been very attentive and helpful! I do want to let y’all know that I am okay after this accident and only dealing with extra pain.

Unfortunately I think we have all probably had a bad day or even a bad week when nothing seems to be going the right way. There comes a time when we have that thought, “Why me?” or “What did I do so wrong to deserve this?”  Well the truth is, there are NO reasons at all and it is definitely not a punishment. My experience with negative people and greedy insurance companies is just part of life. Even though I don’t know what it is, there was a reason for the accident to happen. We have been discussing selling my little car and images (17)getting me something that is much safer and maybe this accident was a push to do so!

Thank you for taking the time to visit my site today. I always appreciate your kindness and love reading your comments. I am sorry this post was SO much longer than I normally do, but I had so much to share with you.  I hope your weekend is going well and please be careful if you have to drive anywhere, it can be very dangerous out there! Please never forget that I am always sending y’all LOTS of love❤, comfort, and may positive vibes!

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❤Always, Alyssa❤


37 thoughts on “My accident that shouldn’t have happened!

  1. Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry your life has been so disastrous! God bless your loving husband for being so supportive and thoughtful!! I know what you mean about having needed him. I often can’t cope with stuff like car wrecks without my dad. I’m really bummed that it happened to you. What a rotten other driver!

    I still continue to admire your interactions with coworkers. My tolerance for snark and envy and nastiness is nil. Less than nil. So I’m super impressed that you handle it so well all the time! My paternal grandmother was always saying that women in the workplace are chronically jealous, and I think she was onto something.

    If there’s anything I can do to help, please let me know!

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    • Thank you so much Meg! It hasn’t been the best week, but I guess it could have been worse. I am really thankful that my husband was there for me. Typically he is my rock! The kid was a terrible driver and rude, he didn’t even apologize to me.

      I appreciate what you have said about my interactions with the snarky co-workers. I just do not want to be down to their level and be rude back. It is easier for me to just not talk to them. Your grandmother was onto something. She really couldn’t be more right about the jealously between women. It is immature and just plain stupid.

      Thank you so much for your concerns as well. I think if I can just rest I will get better.

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  2. OMG! Alyssa… You were definitely not having a good week at all. I’m so sorry. Thank goodness for your husband being able to be by your side. Thank goodness nothing more serious happened to you. Oh, Sweetie, I hope you take good care of yourself this weekend. Take time to rest and the heck with everything else going on around you.
    My prayers and thoughts are with you! Love you, Sweetie! 💗

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    • Thank you! I am thankful for my husband’s support and calming demeanor. Truthfully, he has always been my rock and keeps me grounded. Even with him there to keep me calm, I was shacking and crying so much, he was worried I was going to have a heart attack. I was so scared and shook up that it was hard to even breath. I am trying to rest this weekend so I will feel better, but I was an idiot yesterday and did a load of laundry. After that load of laundry, the pain elevated. I will not be doing anymore housework this weekend!
      I appreciate all of your kindness, support, and love! I hope you have a nice weekend!

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  3. Thank Almighty God that you are okay. The car can get fixed or replaced. You are alive.

    Father God embrace Alyssa during this trying time and grant her peace and comfort along with great favor for all that your daughter is facing. Your Word says that peace and joy will be with us all the days of our life. You said provisions are made beforehand so that we have these blessings.

    I ask and thank you in advance for the Mighty blessings of overflow in Alyssa’s life in Jesus Almighty Name, Amen.

    Love you girl. Xoxo 🙏❤💫

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    • Thank you so much sweetie! It really was an awful and terrifying experience. I am glad that I am alive and only have to deal with more pain, but my goodness the pain is getting to me now. One thing that made me so angry was, the kid didn’t even apologize. He kept trying to so hard to lie to the cop and the cop kept shutting it down.
      The car will get repaired and hopefully soon. I have been scared of an accident with that car for a while now. It is too small and things could have been so much worse. I know all the extra pain will get better in time and my fear of driving will go away. I can’t thank you enough for your kind words that are so full of love and support! Lots of love to you!

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  4. Alyssa I thank God you’re ok. I agree that everything happens for a reason and when it’s suppose to. Not in our time but God’s timing which is always the best. I amongst a lot of others wonder why bad stuff happens?? It really makes us stronger and better people. It may even allow us to look at life differently and reprioritize what’s important and what’s not. I also have to agree with you on health care and how costly it is. It’s a shame that with or without insurance health care is very expensive. It would be a blessing if anyone that is sick either with a chronic or acute illness could just focus on getting better and not on how costly the treatment for getting better will cost us. It’s sad that a lot of us can’t afford to have a chronic or acute illness. We can only pray that healthcare will change for all of us. I’m so amazed that what ever life brings you, you somehow find the best in every situation. I believe your positive attitude will keep you striving to overcome all obstacles. Keep up the good work. You’re an inspiration to me and I’m sure all of your followers. All my Love & Support, Mom!!

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    • Thank you for taking the time to read this post and comment. I know you are dealing with a lot of pain and I know it isn’t easy. Pain is frustrating and beyond difficult. Life for everyone would be a little easier if healthcare wasn’t so costly. Many have to decide if it is more important to feed their family and keep a roof over their head or go to the doctor! It makes me SO irate that the US is the ONLY developed country that doesn’t offer free healthcare. There is so much greed in this country and those that make the policies do not care about the well-being of others. I do not know how they sleep peacefully at night, when many are struggling! Lots of Love!


  5. That’s a lot of damage to your car Alyssa – no wonder the impact of the crash is making you sore. And the co-workers and your situation – I’ve dealt with that too … I always took on a little more than necessary and co-workers don’t like that … forget the fact that I was paid no more for taking on extra stuff to do – I wanted to learn and do new things. Doesn’t matter.
    Oh well. Sigh. Now I work from home so I don’t have that issue anymore.

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    • Yes it was a lot of damage, but if I didn’t hit the brakes he would have hit the driver’s side door causing a lot of other harm.
      With work, I have made the decision to not do more than I am paid for. I handle what I am supposed to, nothing more and nothing less. I would LOVE to work from home and maybe someday I will!

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      • I know I made up my mind that the more you do, the more they expect of you and I cut that out as well, no matter how I enjoyed more responsibilities … it was not worth it in the long run!

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    • I am okay, just feeling a little more pain than before. I am doing my best to rest, but I am not that great at it. I talked to the insurance claims people earlier, they are trying to get in touch with the kids mother because she is the policy holder. I have to wait until she “accepts” responsiblity before I can count on them covering the rental car and my car repairs. It makes NO sense. The police report clearly states he was at fault!!! I really appreciate your concern and caring words!!

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    • I do remember you had an accident recently. They really are terrible, but the insurance companies are insane to deal with. This accident wasn’t not my fault and yet I am the one that seems to being punished. The kid’s mother won’t answer calls and this is just a headache!!! The kid and his mother are definitely assholes!!

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      • In a perfect world, my insurance company would be handling this. Crazy thing is both myself and the other driver have the same insurance provider, so you would think that would help. They need the other driver or shall I say the mother considering she is the policy holder to take responsibility. I still don’t understand why because the police report clearly says it was his fault!

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      • I agree with you completely! I had to make my recorded statement to the claims people today and the idiot kid apparently did as well. The person handling this said she was waiting for the pictures of his jeep. I had already sent pictures when the accident happen. I am worried something will go wrong and she will not say he is at fault. The damn police report clearly states HE was at fault!!!

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  6. I think you did incredibly well posting about this. I’m really glad your husband was there for you, if it were me I would have been an absolute mess. So sweet he got you new crochet gear. Do you think this idiot kid’s insurer’s will pay out smoothly? Fingers crossed you get no more hassle, you’ve had way too much as it is. What a shitty nightmare.  ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

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    • Thank you so much! My husband is pretty great and if he didn’t get to me when he did, I wouldn’t have been able to deal with it. Even with him there, I was shaking uncontrollably and crying. It was a horrible day and so scary! Unfortunately, I do not think the kid’s mother will allow this to go through without issues. She hasn’t even talked to the insurance company to “accept” responsibility. I don’t know why she needs to when the police report clearly say it was the idiot kids fault! It was very sweet my husband bought me a new crochet bag and hooks! He knows how much crocheting relaxes me! It is a really pretty bag and has lots of space!!! I couldn’t have said it better myself, it was a shitty nightmare that just will not end!

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