Did y’all know there is a difference between healthy anger and unhealthy anger? I honestly had no idea there was a difference. I do not like confrontation at all and I will try to avoid it at all costs. I guess you can say that I just bottle up my emotions even though I know that is not a good way to live. I try so hard to ignore what I am really feeling, thinking that if I ignore it those emotions will just go away, but they do not! Avoiding confrontation has never been a successful method!
Anger alerts us that we need to protect ourselves. It is an alert that we are not being treated correctly and something in our life is not working out the best way it can and should! Anger is an awareness tool that shines light on an injustice and provides insight to make necessary changes. We should never dismiss the anger that we are feeling, but we should investigate our feelings and make imperative changes and then let it go. Letting go is never easy, but if we are able to acknowledge and address the pain we are feeling, the next step is to just release those negative feelings and move on with our lives! If we continue to stifle our emotions we may miss an opportunity to make some real positive changes in life and that would be a disgrace to ourselves and we would probably regret not taking the chance we were given for a beneficial change!
Unhealthy anger does not do us any good either. This type of anger can cause emotional and physical issues, but can also have a terrible impact on those around us as well. Anger can suffocate a person that is only trying to avoid the initial confrontation, but the issues are still present until they are dealt with. Unhealthy anger is continuously fed, revisited and held onto, but the issue or issues are never addressed. This allows for anger to just pile up and you will feel like you are going to explode. I think the best way to explain it is, have you ever taken an unopened bottle of soda and shaken it vigorously? What happens when you open that bottle? Whatever type of soda you just shook up will explode all over the place.
My soda analogy is what can happen when someone allows for the anger to just stay inside their heart and mind, not address the problem and let it go! Whatever you are angry with will not just magically disappear and improve without talking about it. Communication is so incredibly important as it will allow us to learn from the mistakes made in life and make proper changes. Change can be scary, but it can be a good thing as well.
Anger can happen with anyone, not just a loved one or co-worker, it can occur when we drive to work and someone cuts us off. That one small incident with the bad drive sets presence to our mood for the day! With the situation with the bad driver, you are not really able to confront them and get the negative emotion out in the open, so what do you do? I guess you just have to expect for others on the road to not be as cautious and careful as you are and chalk it up to another day on the road! In situations like that I know the initial reaction might be to use some unpleasant sign language, but that does not fix the issue and will not teach anyone how to drive. I can honestly say that it is not easy to let things like this go, but at the same time is not worth our mental time and allowing it to ruin our day!
How many times has your significant other made you so angry that you wanted to scream? Has anyone in your family ever done something so outrageous that it caused resentment and frustration to the point you were not able to speak to them for a little while? It is perfectly normal to get angry, especially with family because you know more about them behind the scenes. I think family anger is a lot more painful than most anger because it is so much closer to your heart. I think anger with our family tends to be more intense because we normally have higher expectations for them than just the normal run of the mill person we communicate with. We hold our family to higher standards so we expect so much out of them. Sometimes I wonder if it is just better to keep our expectations low so we are never disappointed, but when something great happens we can savor that moment!
Life can be extremely difficult and we are all going to face some kind of disagreement throughout out lives. It is okay to be angry, but it is also very important to address what you are angry about. If you allow angry to fester and never address the problem, it will only hinder your own happiness.
I hope y’all had a great Monday! As always I do appreciate you visiting my site today and your comments are very welcomed! I promise to respond to all comments as quickly as I can and look forward to the conversation! I hope y’all have a very relaxing and pleasant evening! Sending you lots of love and comfort!
Always, Alyssa
Loved this post. Anger is just another emotion. It’s part of life. I’m definitely one to clear the air in a hurry rather than bottle anything in. Some love, some hate it. Either way I’m me and I’m good with that😋
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Thank you Alex! It is much better to just clear the air quickly, instead of bottling things up the way I tend to! I think that is something people should actually admire, not hate in anyway! You never have to question where things stand with you and I love that!!!
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It’s always the easier way. Glad you wrote about it:)
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Thank you my dear sweet friend!! I always appreciate your comments!!
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Buona sera cara amica. This is an excellent article that divides the waters like Moses did in the Red Sea as there are necessary manifestations of anger, which usually are very focused and measured. If we continue to stifle our emotions we will miss on some of life’s better lessons. Today I started today to write my second book titled “Emotional Frustration” and I will address this issue. Hope you and your hubby are doing well. Un baccione. Arrivederci!
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Thank you for your comment! I appreciate your support and encouragement! I hate to say it, I never knew you already wrote a book. You know that is my end goal to write a book?! When is your 2nd book coming out and what is the title of the first book?
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Good morning. The title of my novel is “Madame D.C. -Three voyages” and you can find it in the Kindle format for the time being. I am still writing the second one.
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I wish you lots of luck with your next book!
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I am very familiar with healthy and unhealthy anger… I have to believe there are more than just two types of anger??? Hmmm…. loved the info! Great post!
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Oh my if there are more, I think I have felt all of them in the past couple of day!! Thank you for your amazing comment Kim!
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I never thought there could be a healthy anger. But I guess an anger that calls us to action, would be productive, thus healthy. Very interesting post.
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Thank you so much for this comment! I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment! I also really appreciate you telling me how to check spam!!
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The comment was there?
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Yes, thank you so much for telling me about the spam! I was able to see and comment!!!
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Thank you!
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Couldn’t be more true. ❤
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I was having a lot of anger issues when I wrote this and was trying to get some clarity on it. It is so hard to let go of anger sometimes, but I do try. Writing about my emotions is so helpful!
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I know exactly what you mean.
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I am working on it though!
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wow. this is so interesting. well written and said. i’m so glad i just read this. i had no idea there was a healthy type of anger. makes me feel better knowing when it happens to me, it’s normal. bc I’m usually always so abnormal, it’s comforting to know it’s A-OK and i’m not alone.
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You are definitely not alone! Sometimes anger just happens and we can not control it. I know I get really angry at times and I have a hard time letting go, but I am working on that. I am glad you liked this post!!!
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omg i’m the queen of dwelling. i can so relate. we’re in this together!
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I am absolutely grateful for this article. Anger is killing me and I needed this. Thank you.
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I am glad you liked this! I hope you find ways to handle your anger and hopefully move past it!
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I’m working on it.
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It takes time, but you will get there! Just never give up!!
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