I have struggled a lot over the years with forgiveness. Even though I know it is important, forgiveness can be extremely challenging. Holding onto a grudge because someone else has caused you pain will not change what happened, you are just allowing that person to continue to have a hold on your thoughts. Finding the strength to forgive is more for the healing of your own fragile heart not theirs. Once you are able to let go of your anger and hurt it will feel like a huge weight was lifted from you.
Once the hurt has been inflicted there is also a loss of trust in that person. In my opinion, trust is something that is earned not just blindly given. A constant amount of lies and deceit is incredibly hard to get past. It is when the words, “I am sorry”; start to mean absolutely nothing at all that there is a problem. Promises made that are not fulfilled from someone who you cared about can be heartbreaking. It is important to have high standards for others, but it can also be setting yourself up for failure. I have found that sometimes it is a lot easier to keep expectations low that way you are never disappointed!
I do feel it is a little easier to forgive than forget the pain experienced. It is impossible to erase the memories when someone has disappointed you consistently. Those that we allow into our lives should bring positive and happiness not negativity and sadness. We actually have the ability to pave the way for others into and out of our lives.
In today’s society, I think there is already plenty to remind us of sadness and disappointment, we certainly do not need any additional dismay caused by anyone we have allowed into our life. We are not able to turn on the news or read anything on a news website that does not involve some variation of turmoil. The disruption of our pride and comfort in our day-to-day lives has done irreparable harm, but maybe if we all unite together there could be the changes we need.
Do you feel serenity in your life knowing what you have decided to forgive and forget, or on the other hand just forgiven and moved on? Do you have any regrets for those you have not been able to forgive for their behaviors or negative treatment? Do you feel that it is okay to be angry with someone, but never really address the issues? Considering I am the type that does not like confrontation I do let things go most of the time. Overall, I can say that I am comfortable with those I have forgiven and those that I am not able to forgive. There are things that are done in life that will never be able to be undone, but we all keeping moving forward because there are no other options.
Life can sometimes feel like a roller coaster ride that has too many twists, turns, ups and downs, but we must continue because it is the ride of our lives. Once you get on board there is no turning around or getting off, because this ride will end up having many exciting parts as well to enjoy. I have found that even after a huge drop, there will always be a time to come back up to the top!
I hope you are having a great weekend! Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my thoughts for today! I really do always appreciate the conversations I am able to have with many of you! Much love y’all and take care!!