Forgive & Forget!

forgive for peaceI have struggled a lot over the years with forgiveness. Even though I know it is important, forgiveness can be extremely challenging. Holding onto a grudge because someone else has caused you pain will not change what happened, you are just allowing that person to continue to have a hold on your thoughts. Finding the strength to forgive is more for the healing of your own fragile heart not theirs. Once you are able to let go of your anger and hurt it will feel like a huge weight was lifted from you.

Once the hurt has been inflicted there is also a loss of trust in that person. In my opinion, trust is something that is earned not just blindly given. Atrust 1 constant amount of lies and deceit is incredibly hard to get past. It is when the words, “I am sorry”; start to mean absolutely nothing at all that there is a problem. Promises made that are not fulfilled from someone who you cared about can be heartbreaking. It is important to have high standards for others, but it can also be setting yourself up for failure. I have found that sometimes it is a lot easier to keep expectations low that way you are never disappointed!

I do feel it is a little easier to forgive than forget the pain experienced. It is impossible to erase the memories when someone has disappointed you consistently. Those that we allow into our lives should bring positive and happiness not negativity and sadness. We actually have the ability to pave the way for others into and out of our lives. 

In today’s society, I think there is already plenty to remind us of sadness and disappointment, we certainly do not need any additional dismay caused by anyone we have allowed into our life. We are not able to turn on the news or read anything on a news website that does not involve some variation of turmoil. The disruption of our pride and comfort in our day-to-day lives has done irreparable harm, but maybe if we all unite together there could be the changes we need. 

Do you feel serenity in your life knowing what you have decided to forgive and forget, or on the other hand just forgiven and moved on? Do you have any regrets for those you forgivehave not been able to forgive for their behaviors or negative treatment? Do you feel that it is okay to be angry with someone, but never really address the issues? Considering I am the type that does not like confrontation I do let things go most of the time. Overall, I can say that I am comfortable with those I have forgiven and those that I am not able to forgive. There are things that are done in life that will never be able to be undone, but we all keeping moving forward because there are no other options. 

Life can sometimes feel like a roller coaster ride that has too many twists, turns, ups and downs, but we must continue because it is the ride of our lives. Once you get on board there is no turning around or getting off, because this ride will end up having many exciting parts as well to enjoy. I have found that even after a huge drop, there will always be a time to come back up to the top!

I hope you are having a great weekend! Thank you so much for reading and commenting on my thoughts for today! I really do always appreciate the conversations I am able to have with many of you! Much love y’all and take care!!

Love 2

Always, Alyssa

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About Positively Alyssa

I was diagnosed 16 years ago, when I was only 19 years old, with Relapsing Remitting Multiple Sclerosis. I had gone to my eye doctor because I had lost vision in my left eye. Prior to my appointment, I had prepared myself to have the doctor confirm that I would be blind in my left eye and that was all. Never in a million years did I expect to hear the doctor tell me that after consulting with his colleagues, that I need to go for an MRI that day because they were thinking that with my symptoms that I had MS. Just a couple hours later I went to get the life altering MRI. I remember that phone call like it was yesterday. My eye doctor called me from his home at 9:30 at night to confirm what they suspected, I in fact had MS. He immediately referred me to a specialist he knew and I was able to get in to see him that same week. Luckily, after a round of steroids, my vision came back in my eye just leaving me with leg pain that would continue to be part of my life. Through the years I have tried numerous different medications that are meant to slow the progression of the disease down. I was never good at the injections and it wasn't because of the needle, it was because the medication burned like fire going in. Still after all these years I still go through my battles of denial, anger, frustration and sadness. However, I have always said that I would NEVER allow MS to control my life but I would control the disease. For the most part, I have been pretty successful with that. I mean we all have our bad days but it doesn't make the situation any better. With this blog I am hoping that with my experiences, endless amounts of research and a powerful fight i me that I can not only help others going through this but that I can learn from others as well. Living with the ups and downs of MS can be challenging but the power of the mind can beat anything that is thrown our way!
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16 Responses to Forgive & Forget!

  1. It took forever for me to learn to forgive, even those who did some horrible things. But all that hate & anger just weigh you down.

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  2. charliew82 says:

    You’re very strong. I agree that there are some things that are so very hard to forgive or accept! It’s a way of stopping them holding you back so I do hope, one day I can be strong like you!

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    • Thank you! I have yet to really forgive one person but he does not deserve forgiveness but he also does not deserve my emotions. The funny thing is, I can let an event or a person go from my life way before I actually forgive them. You without a doubt can get to a point when holding onto the past just is not worth your time! It is not the amount of strength you have, it is a matter of how long you will allow anyone to control you! I do believe in you!!!

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  3. kimc91 says:

    I love this post it’s all so true. Forgiveness and trust are both things that are so hard it’s nice to know I’m not the only one that struggles with those feelings! X x

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    • Oh goodness, you are definitely not the only one! Once you have lost trust for someone, it is so hard to get back to a good place with them. Forgiveness is always a struggle, but as I guess as time passes it gets easier. There are only a couple people that have caused enough pain for forgiveness to be a terrible struggle and one of those people I just had to limit contact with. You can forgive someone but then not communicate with them, it eliminates more chances of hurt! Thank you so much for your comment! I hope you are doing well today! Take care and much love to you!

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